VOL. 1 - WINTER 2010
Some of you may know me as the guy giving out the free Wrigley's chewing gum and Time Out magazines, others may know me as the idiot from the Paragon Facebook group. For those of you that don’t, I’m Terry and throughout the course of this year I will be selecting a number of your letters and dishing out my own brand of common sense advice.
Hopefully in the process I will help some of you work out your various issues, or else have a good laugh at your expense. My advice may seem harsh at times, if it seems like I am ridiculing your pain, well I probably am but it’s more than likely for your own good.
So here's the original ‘In Agony!’ twist! Sometimes the advice is already out there you just need to know where to look. So with your response I will also be giving HOMEWORK. This will include anything from a specific song or film, to a book or TV show episode for you to research, which will hopefully shed some light on your issue. I think that’s enough small talk. Here’s volume 1!
Janet J wrote:
I have a huge crush on one of my lecturers. I always blush when he looks at me and I can’t keep eye contact. I’m starting to worry that he might realise and that would makes things really awkward.
A: Well Janet everyone gets crushes, usually the best thing to do is tell the person and get a response good or bad. The obvious difference here is that your crush is a teacher, so you can be sure that nothing will ever come of it. Remind yourself of that and try to see the funny side of it until you get over your feelings, which you probably will when you find someone else you like. In the meantime keep yourself distracted with a game. Or try big sunglasses.
HOMEWORK: (Watch) Friends season 4 episode 4 - Phoebe has a crush on a massage client but manages to distract herself until she makes the mistake of telling him and ends up getting fired.
Chelseaboy wrote:
In my final year now and I’m already feeling swamped with work, my job plus having a social life. I’ve never been very good at organising myself. What’s a good ways of staying on top of things?
A: Some people keep a diary. Personally if it’s in a diary I forget to check it, so I brought a big whiteboard for my room. I keep a to do list on it and tick it off as I go along. The good thing is the writing is so big that you can’t miss it. Sounds childish but make a reward system. Every time you do something on your list tick it off (or if you're really fancy buy some gold stars!) and when you have 10 buy yourself a prezzie!
HOMEWORK: (Watch) Supernanny on Channel 4. She always gives them some chart to fill in and it makes their day.
Bonnie Lass wrote:
I’m not an angry person but my boyfriend broke up with me unexpectedly three weeks ago and now he’s moving in with his new girlfriend! I don’t want him back but I hate that this gets to me! Any ideas?
A: Okay. Find somewhere secluded. Maybe get a friend to drive you. Find a big field or empty space. Check there’s no one around. Now, allow yourself to feel it completely. Then let it all go. Shout and scream like a maniac at the top of your voice for as long as needed! You will probably feel a lot better after with a nice adrenaline rush to boot. Now when you see them together think back to that moment and laugh quietly to yourself.
HOMEWORK: (Listen) Lost prophets – “Rooftops”
Timmy wrote:
Me and my mate used to smoke a lot of grass in college but I gave up before leaving for uni. My mate still uses and is now regularly using speed. Last time I went back home he was totally strung out. I’m not sure what to do.
A: Well bad effects of Speed can include tiredness, depression, anxiety and sleep problems, which will make him want to take more. With Speed, the longer he takes it the worse it’s going to get. By the sound of it he will need to talk to a doctor or a trained drug counsellor. You can’t be there all the time, so you need to pass the responsibility on to his family or friends back home who can then help look out for him. Try to make a weekly/monthly visit part of your routine and phone on pre-arranged days and times, doing so and keeping to that schedule will demonstrate trust and support.
Carebear1988 wrote:
My boyfriend cheats on me. It’s been going on for a while. Usually it’s just one night stands but one of my friends told me she’s seen him kissing the same girl in public 3 times. I’m not sure if I should confront him because we’re in love and I don’t want him to break up with me.
A: Wow. Things are worse than I realised. Dump your boyfriend and get a CAT scan!
I'll give anything a go so send your problems, embarrassing illnesses, secret shames and all the rest, to tezofalltrades@gmail.com with 'HELP' in the subject box and leave an alias for how you want to be addressed.
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